Have you been thinking of a way to get people to do what you want? If yes, here are some tricks to help you get people to do what you want.
1. Address People You’ve Just Met by Their Name.
People love being addressed to by their name and it will create a sense of trust and friendship instantly.
E.g. “Nice to meet you Josephine. So, Josephine how do you know Tracy?” And continue to call them by their name throughout your entire conversation with them.
2. Pay Attention To People’s Feet.
Pay close attention to people’s feet. If you meet two people in the middle of a conversation and they only turn their hips and not their feet to talk to you, it means they don’t want you to join in the conversation.
Hips Feet don’t lie.
3. Ask People For Small Favors.
We you ask people you just met for favour, It trains their brain to think you like them already. And then you can make your way up-to asking big favors after you’ve gotten acquainted.
4. Sit Next To An Aggressor.
To avoid aggressive confrontation from someone, you have to take a seat right next to them.
Close proximity makes the aggressor less likely to lash out on you, as they will feel uncomfortable with showing aggression to someone close to them. I use this trick often in tensed meetings.
5. Have Sense of Humour.
When you are out in a gathering for friends and potential friends, crack a joke and observe the people who are laughing at your joke.
People who feel close to you will be looking at you. This can be useful in decernining of friends from the crowd.
6. Gentle Trick To Make People Do What You Want Them To.
Give people a choice rather than command them. E.g, instead of saying “Go and do your home work” to a kid, ask he/she which of your homework will you start with?
That gentle question gives the individual a sense of control, and hence produces a higher chance of a better outcome.
7. If you want to be persuasive.
When persuading, don’t use the words “I think” and “I believe” those words are used to tender opinions.
8. If You Want To Be A Leader.
Never Act Surprised even when you are surprised.
In leadership, act as if everything is a logical consequence of something else that has happen.
This is very useful during situations of all sorts especially when it is your place to break bad news to people. Always act to show that you are in control.
9. If You Want Someone to Tell You Something More.
Stay Silent. In a conversation, keep silent even after the person has finished speaking. More often than not, he/she will start talking again to avoid the awkward silence.
10. Ask for more than you want first then scale it back later.
When you want to ask for a favor, ask for something that they will most likely refuse you. Then after awhile ask for something less -what you actually wanted at first.
This will make the person feel bad for refusing your first request, even though it was unreasonable and will feel obligated to help you this time around.
11. Getting Someone to help you hold something or get rid of it.
If you want your friend or family member to hold something for you, keep talking to them naturally while handing over the thing to them.
Most people will automatically take the item from you without thinking and will not even realize they are still holding it.
I do this with my elder sister all the time and it works!
12. Nodding Your Head While giving your opinion.
This will make the other person more inclined to agree with you. E.g. “I think this meal tastes better than the one we ate earlier” while nodding, most people will agree with you.
13. Touch While Interacting With People
Our brains are wired in such a way that we are super sensitive to even the most gentle physical touch. Touching innocently is a highly effective way of building rapport.
Do you need something from someone? Try this trick.
Gently place your hand on his/her shoulder, look apologetically into his/her eyes and say “please I need your help”
This works like magic. But Just don’t try it on a senior or your parent.
14. Make Someone Feel Insecure.
When you look at peoples hairline when they speak, it makes them feel insecure.
15. Use Gestures When You Speak
Research has proven that people who make gestures when they talk are percieved to be more efficient in their talk and influential.
Use meaningful hand gestures which are necessary to convey your point across properly and not some random hand acrobatics in the air that could make you look like an imbecile.
16. Teach what you know.
When you have studied/learnt something new, teach a friend how what you learnt. Allow them to ask questions. If you’re able to teach something well, you understand it better.
One Key To Confidence Is Walking Into A Room And Assuming That Everyone in the room Already Likes You.
18. Smile always.
Last but not the least, if you smile genuinely, you will automatically feel happier. Remember to wear a smile always.
Try these tricks and start influencing people and making new friends.
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Originally posted on 03/08/2020 @ 8:58 AM